Ikaw na lang ang mag-Bading
“It is so funny I forgot to laugh.”
Linya yan ng isa sa favourite kong writer na si Jessica Zafra.
Ganyan kasi ang naging reaction ko upon reading someone’s comments from an article written by the wonderful Ellen Tordesillas about the Jinggoy-Ping privilege speech bakbakan.
As a gay person living in this modern day and age, malungkot pa rin ako when I read or hear something bad written about us, and lalong mas nakaka-stress dahil sometimes we are mentioned in reference to something bad and calling it ‘very gay’.
That article by Miss Ellen has nothing to do with us gays but somehow merong mga individuals who are making an issue about Senator Lacson as being gay because what he does is ‘so bading’. Quite irrelevant yata yun sa issue at hand pero dahil napag-usapan na rin lang at medyo offensive ang iilang statement, I might as well voice out my feelings about it. Mahirap kasing pigilan dahil baka lumabas itong utot.
Istilo ng Bading
In my 17 years (walang kokontra sa age) of existence as a gay person, ngayon ko lang na-encounter ang phrase na ‘istilo ng bading’. Pati ako hindi ko rin alam ang exact definition nun, to think 101% sure ako I’m a pa-gurl. Ano ba kasi ang istilong bading? Unfortunately, hindi pala maganda ang meaning nun. Ang sabi ay kapag daw ang isang trabahong ‘di magaling ang pagka-gawa o hindi karangal-dangal ay istilong bading na ito. My gosh. Gosh abelgosh. Whoever came up with that definition is so full of hate towards us. That statement is so unfair. Paano na lang kaming mga mararangal ang ginagawa at pinagbubuti ang trabaho. Calling someone’s palpak work or in the case of Sen. Lacson, ‘unlawful’ as ‘istilo ng bading’ is downright stupid.
Bakla lang ang pumuputak na lalaki
Kelan pa naging basehan ang pagsasalita ng isang tao para malaman ang sexual orientation nito. Stereotyping much? You mean ang mga lalaki ay walang karapatan magsalita or voice their opinions because they might be labeled as gays? Ganun? Nakakaloka ha. Paano na lang yung mga opinion writers and brilliant political speakers, are they probable gays or gays-in-hiding too? Eh kung sinasabing bading si Sen. Lacson dahil dada ng dada, what about Sen. Jinggoy eh putak din ang resbak nito, you mean bading din siya? Anuvayan! Akala ko ako lang ang bobita eh may mas malabnaw pa pala ang utak saken.
Bakla o Bading
Trust me, as a full-blooded gay, walang pinagkaiba ang salitang ‘bading’ or ‘bakla’. Same din yun sa badaf, badingerzzie, bayot, agi, homosexual and gay. But there are those claiming na mas may alam pa yata sa amin ay masyadong kino-complicate ang definition nito. There’s no need for complication. Walang history ek-ek or derivations eklavoo ang mga ito. Eh mas marunong pa kayo sa amin kayo na lang ang mag-bading.
Bato bato sa langit ang tamaan magkakabukol
This is the reason why being gay in this modern society is still a struggle for us lalo na sa ating bansa because despite our obvious existence in almost all fields in the society, may mga tao pa rin na mahilig sa lumang stereo, stereotypical pa rin kung tumingin sa mga katulad ko. This kind of stigma is hard to forget but don’t you think it’s time already that this should be erased? The common and negative general impression of gays will never be lost kung palaging may mga ganitong opinyon na sumusulpot, and surprisingly sa isang intellectual forum pa na aakalain mo ay mas may broad na pananaw because, well, matatalino nga and has a better understanding of things because of their exposure to the world. Unfortunately, akala lang pala natin to. Claiming to know a lot of things but in reality they are totally misinformed about us. Scary! Kung sino pa itong mas may alam ay ito pa pala ang mas kailangang paliwanagan. Kelangan yata mag-seminar muna sa amin ang ibang kababayan natin. Clearly, kulang at outdated na ang information ng database ng mga utak nila.
Don’t worry, may bonus. Tuturuan din namin kayo ng proper makeup.
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Mel is is the ‘gurl’ behind “The Misadventures of Mel Beckham”. ‘She’ graduated with a double major in Management and Entrepreneurship. ‘She’ grew up in the city but now lives in the bukid near barrio siete juggling work as a farm manager, office secretary, messenger, construction worker, housemaid, make-up artist and babysitter. Despite ‘her’ busy schedule, ‘she’ finds the time to blog in between work, and errands using ‘her’ primitive mobile phone. ‘She’ plans to take ‘her’ MBA soon but ‘her’ multiple jobs prevent ‘her’ from doing so unless going to school will get ‘her’ paid to pay for ‘her’ utangs.
Before ‘she’ dies, ‘she’ hopes of owning a pair of Louboutins, and landing on the cover of Vogue, kahit sa Vogue India lang. Whichever comes first.
Never mind! Don’t mind it na lang… Kaya nga nagalit si Ellen and told one of the commenters to stop being a bigot!
Lots of love,
Anna
xxx
Talaga Ms. Anna? Good for her at napagalitan siya ni Ma’am Ellen.
Anna,
I’m still reading the comments. Shock nga ako nung sinulat yon ni Grizzy and I think dun sa 100+ comments para syang homo scientist trying to dissect gays but still i truly dislike the labelling kesyo we are one lowly flying citizens.
Yet, i sorta ignored the comment kahit nang-gagalaiti ako because, fact is, andami ko kamung natutunan dun sa mga comments ninyo and I truly like the two entries. That one by Ping Lacson and the other rebuttal by Jinggoy.
I’m still reading them and that’s what I like from Ellen’s blog. I learn a lot and feel that I am back in Manila dahil abreast ako with what’s going on.
You’re right Reynz… you will grow grey quickly if you pay attention to every single comment na nakakainis. Heh.
besides andito si mel tiga-pagtanggol nang mga na-aapi hehehe
bato lang ang katapat nyan.
DARNAAAA!
Don’t worry, may bonus. Tuturuan din namin kayo ng proper makeup.
I’ll take you up on your offer, ha?
Yes Ms. Anna. Makeup for daytime, night time and all the time. =)
its just clearly shows that even in this age when allmost all of us are free,,
there are still people who choose to remain living in ice age. Wag mo nang patulan yan mel, saksakin mo nga ng nail polish yan!ha ha ha
or use a make up kit on them na didikit like blue alkitran hehehe
Sinasabi ko na nga ba, merong puputak, este, magre-react. Sowee. Kakatuwa pala ito si Mel, sensitive.
hindi naman ako sensitive. makapal talaga ang mukha ko lalo na kung may makeup but calling us names, hindi ko palalampasin yun.
@Tongue-twiseted,
Hindi lang siya nakakatuwa bro.
Mel is also super witty. Idagdag mo pa ang kanyang sense of humor at street-smart attitude, you’ll love to know this person, pramis!
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I love gays noh, marami yan sa pamilya namin and most of my friends are gays, my experience with them taught me to accept the sex preference of one of my kid, siguro nga utak gay din kasi ang nanay nila, but seriously, a lot of gays are successful in their own right at sa lahat ng field, sila ang nagpapasaya sa lahat, di ko maimagine ang buhay kung walang mga bading, we’re not happy and gay
acceptance is a vital part of our being. mas madali kasing gumalaw kung may freedom ka lalo na sa sarili mong tahanan.
kung walang bading sa mundo, magugunaw ito pramis. hihihi
Tumpak.
And to be honest, magagaling ang karamihan sa arts ha? Most of the people in the fashion world are gays. They make our world beautiful, di ba?
Hay naku, I could only classify bigots as douchebags.
Pasensya na. Tumataas kasi ang kilay ko sa mga ganyang comments about gay people – lesbian man or gay – even transexuals.
Who are they to judge other people just because of their sexuality?
ANG TANGA NG MGA YAN TO JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE.
They deserve to be in the planet’s trash can.
LECHE.
ang puso mo Silver. hihi.
siguro malungkot ang childhood nya kaya puno ng galit. or baka binubully yan or may traumatic experience. magpa-therapy kaya sya noh? or mag-marathon ng Will & Grace.
Hay naku Mel.
Galit ako sa mga taong makikitid ang utak.
Hmpt.
At ayaw kong may inaapi na ibang tao just because of who they are. Litsi!
bakit me labeling???? ang tingin ko sa mga ganon? di tao grizzly bears! LOL! oooopppppssss! i really hate those people who labels others! oi! mging perfect muna kayo! ~sabay paypay khit freezing!~ naku ano ba yan yong pamaypay kong karton wasak na!
for grizzly bears. hihihi… eto, pra me konting info kayo! litsi! “The truth behind closets: eunuchs”
korakness! sana nga perfect syang tao dahil kung ako ang pumuna sa kanya baka umiyak na sya sa pang-ookray ko. lol
At paiinumin ng acetone para malinis ang kukote. Charot!
indeed mel! me mas maganda pang panlinis ng kukute, muriatic! a basta winner ang beauty ng mga totoong tao! in and out!
i think grizzy mentioned in one of his/her comments na may shofatid syang gay
trulala?
am sure, dysfunctional ever and relasyon nilang mag-shofatid
hindi yata nya matanggap na may kapatid siyang diva kaya instead of lashing her own kadugo ay yung iba na lang ang tinitira nya. sad. kawawa ang kapatid nya at may sister siyang bruha.
Naka, di ko na binabasa mga comments nyang si grizzy at mumbaki pag andun ako kay Tita Ellen. Punong puno ng galit sa sambayanang Pilipino eh. Wala ng magaling kundi ang Japan!
ay, i therefore conclude malungkot pala siyang tao. puno ng hatred. kawawa naman.
Ay naku Reynz, I don’t share their bigotry. I’ve called her attention several times.
It’s shows their deficiency. They expose their narrow mindedness. Sila and pervert.
I delete some of the really destructive comments but as a policy, I refrain from banning visitors unless talagang pesteng-peste na.
naka tita ellen,
it kinda deviated me a bit reading those massive comments, but i ignored it na lang dahil mas matindi ang balitaktakan dun and i’m loving it! many thanks sa pag-sita.
Mel, baka inggit lang sa kilay. Turuan mo kasi mag pluck. Pluck nga ba yun? Maraming beses na ako napagkamalang bading. Kung binabasa ito ni Melan my love ko tatawa yun. Hoy Hon! Mag comment ka naman dito puro ka nalang lurky lurky.
Some men should learn a simple lesson and the lesson is that ’til they’re able to have that certain female trait in them, they will not understand women. It’s part of social climbing.
Pahabol lang..Mel, ganda ng makapal mong bracelet na itim ahh..Di ba ganyan yung gamit ng hagibis?
Kuya Rob, korek ka diyan. Some men are afraid to show a certain amount of femininity kasi baka matuluyan. Hahaha! JK.
Yung black cuff ko Kuya is a gift (same with the black chinese beads, the white One baller and yung silver bracelet). Friendship bonds namin kaya suot ko palagi. Hihi
Snow, hindi naman masyado. Hahaha! Kuntento na sana ako sa maganda lang or na magkamukha tayo eh. Hahaha! Salamat.
Sa lahat ng bading ikaw lang ang may agimat.
Definitely not true about gays being PALPAK! kasi, gays are creative! kung may gay na empleyado, mas pinagkakatiwalaan pa nga sila kesa sa lalake or babae!
Meron din mga lalake talaga na madaldal. eh ganun talaga. there are GUYS na madaldal lang talaga.
marami lang din talagang taong ayaw sa badet! i dont know why but definitely they miss out one of the best laughs they can if they will be with a gay friend!
karamihan sa mga may ayaw sa amin ay yung malulungkot ang buhay. puno ng galit at angst sa mundo. hahaha
dito sa work ko (manufacturing), pag may nag-aapply na bading, parang ang comment ng iba, bading na naman? ako, i never put it against anyone, kung anoman ang sexual preference nya. nagkataon lang na gusto nya rin ng lalaki.
pero anoka, hindi sila tatamad-tamad. mabilis kumilos at masayang kasama sa inuman. hahaha.
i wish i had more gay friends growing up. i’m sure, walang tigil na kasiyahan yun. kaso, wala e.
i actually don’t know kung ano yung issue behind ping & jinggoy (i’m sooper out of this world talaga). i know it’s bad that i don’t care much about the goings-on around me. kaso mo, when i turn on the tv & watch the news, parang dumarami ang wrinkles ko e.
the stress i get from work will last me a lifetime, i think. ayoko na dagdagan ng mga walang kwentang pangyayari sa bansa natin. hehe.
i enjoyed your post. so yung offer mo na magturo ng pagme-make up true? i’ll sign up. hehe.
chona,
yong issue ni ping and jinggoy, really good read especially yong sa comments section. yon nga actually ang reason bakit nag-sampa nang libel si Estrada but curiously, he left out ping lacson. basta ang ganda nung mga balitaktakan dun sa entry ni Ellen Tordesillas.
korek ate reynz, very educational and informative ang discussion doon. nakakahumaling. hahaha. yun nga lang may side comments na nakakairita. irrelevant naman. buti nga at napagalitan.
The same thing sa mga ayaw mag call center. Isa sa mga reason sila is maraming bading. I worked for a call center when I was still home. I enjoyed it! Kaya nga medyo nakakaintindi ako ng salita.
In a society that’s longing for freedom, having this thing against gays is funny. Perhaps ridiculous.
opo, true yan. gawin natin sa barrio fiesta. hihi. salamat at nag-enjoy kayo reading this post.
I used to work sa retail industry back home. Do you know that there are pink malls? natawa ako, dahil they really are something na worth the effort and the investment of the business people, because they are spending.
I have also worked together with a lot of them sa atin and I have to say that a number (di ko naman kasi pwede sabihing lahat, dahil meron din naman sablay) really excelled. To think prejudiced pa yung karamihan sa gays and lesbians…. But then again, look at who’s who sa industry kung saan kayo?
yes. hindi naman perfect and excellent ang work ng ibang bading. tulad din ng ibang tao may palpak din ang performance. nainis lang ako dun sa phrase na ‘istilo ng bading’, parang sinasabing kapag chaka na ang ginagawa ay puede nang sabihin na istilo namin ang ganung trabaho. ka-inez veneracion.
wait lang wait lang..
eto na naman ata tayo.. we are trying to define something as an absolute.. alam ko nagkamali na ako dahil sa claim ko na “BarrioSiete is not a blog” dahil ginagawa kong absolute ang definition ng salitang “blog”
in this case, parang ginagawa din nating absolute and definition ng salitang “bading” or “bakla”
gamit ang context clues.. binasa ko ang statement nun sinsabi ninyong grizzy.. parang hindi nga tama ang paggamit niya ng word na bading..
Istilo ng bading – style of a gay? parang mali talaga.
istilong bading – the style is gay in itself, mas tama siguro.
bading – 3rd sex. (in mel’s words pa-gurl)
bading – (in the context of the statement “istilong bading”) pretending to be someone that you are not.
- trying to act like someone that you can never become.
ako, inaamin ko, minsan ginagamit ko ang salitang “bading”. pero kahit ngayon, hindi ko alam kung ano ba ang tamang paggamit ng salitang ito.
‘istilo ng bading’ is just so wrong.
like what i said above, bading, bakla, vaklush, etc. pareho lang lahat ng yun. nag-eevolve lang talaga ang tawag namin dito, no need to complicate.
promking,
dala kasi to nang walang katapusang pangungutya sa mga bakla kaya ang nangyari, nag-imbento ang mga bakla nang language na kami lang ang nakakaintindi. isa na nga dito ang word na bading to really mean the same thing but may not be as harsh as fag. ako nga eh, di pa ako masyadong fluent sa “language” namen hehehe ayoko lang ipamalita at baka i-revoke ang ID ko hehehe
ang ibig sabihin lang….wag tawaging bading kung palpak ang trabaho ng isang lalaki! di po ba tita mel? talagang makikitid lang ang mga isip ng taong hindi ma-accept na may third sex sa mundong ibabaw.
oo nga hindi komot madaldal at pala-kaibigan ang isang lalaki ay tatawagin ng bading, isang ehemplo na lang itong aking mister..super makipag-kaibigan…kahit sinong pinoy yata sa mall kina-kausap…tuloy sabi ng aking mga anak, lahat daw ng pilipino kilala ng papa nila….hahaha at tama rin si Rob, na ang mga lalaki should accept na meron lambot ng isang babae sa puso nila….para lalo silang mahalin ng kanilang mga asawa o kaya’y G.F nila, kailangan ding gumawa sila ng mga bagay na kadalasang ang mga babae lang ang gumagawa…katulad ng pag huhugas ng pingan at pag lalaba…at tiyak na may kasunod na na naman si J.R…..hahaha natutuwa lang po ako sa topic na ito…
korek ka diyan annie. pasok sa banga ang sinabi mo. mahirap mag judge ng isang tao lalo na kung hindi ka naman lawyer. charing. and you cannot conclude one person just because pareho sila ng sexual preference. katulad ng straight people, hindi pare-pareho ang mga bakla. ewan ko ba, very primitive pa rin kung mag-isip ang iilan sa atin.
men who are not afraid to show their feminine side are the ones who are very secure sa kanilang sexuality. well, most of the time. hahaha!
mga bossing wag na idamay ang mga bading.
tanga ba sila? e lahat may karapatang magsalita.